This file includes Kindness, Manners, and Gossip and Rumors.
Also see Gratitude, Acceptance, Anger, Forgiveness, and songs about Kindness and Giving.
- Always be a little kinder than necessary.
- Always put yourself in others' shoes; if it hurts you, it probably hurts the other person, too.
- Be an opener of doors for such as come after thee, and do not try to make the universe a blind alley. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
- Be kind, remember everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle. (T.H. Thompson)
- Be kind to unkind people...they need it most.
- Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.
- Before you walk a mile in someone's moccasins take off your own first.
- Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. (Og Mandino)
- Being considerate of others will take your children further in life than any college degree. (Marian Wright Edelman)
- Being kind is more important than being right.
- The best lesson we can learn is to love people and use things instead of loving things and using people.
- The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up. (Mark Twain)
- The best way to knock the chip off your neighbors shoulder is to pat him on the back
- Blowing out the other fellows candle won't make yours shine any brighter.
- A candle loses none of its light by lighting another candle.
- Commend in Public, Condemn in Private
- Commit random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty.
- Compassion is difficult to give away because it keeps coming back.
- Dare to reach out your hand into the darkness, to pull another hand into the light. (Norman B. Rice)
- Deeds of kindness are equal in weight to all the commandments. (Talmud)
- A diplomat is someone who can tell you to go to hell in such a way that you'll look forward to the trip.
- Do not do unto others as you would that they should do unto you. Their tastes may not be the same. (G.B. Shaw)
- Don't do for others what, given the chance, they wouldn't do for themselves.
- Don't tell someone to get over it. Help them get through it.
- Don't wait for people to be friendly, show them how.
- The fastest way to lift your spirits is to lift someone else's.
- A friendly look, a kindly smile, one good act, and life's worthwhile.
- Give of yourself and you will find yourself.
- Give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you.
- A good man is kinder to his enemy, than bad men to their friends.
- The greatest wisdom of all is kindness. (Hebrew Proverb)
- The heart has its reason which reason does not know. (Blaise Pascal)
- He who praises everybody, praises nobody. (Samuel Johnson)
- He who sees a need and waits to be asked for help is as unkind as if he had refused it. (Dante)
- How beautiful a day can be when kindness touches it. (George Alliston)
- I pray each day that I may be strong enough not to hurt anybody. (Acharya)
- I shall pass through this world but once...Any good therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any other human being, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.
- I'd like to help you out--which way did you come in?
- If the world seems cold to you, kindle fires to warm it. (Lucy Larcom)
- If we are here to help others, then what exactly are the others here for? (Steven Wright)
- If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
- If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
- If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion. (Dalai Lama)
- If your heart is full of love, then you always have something to give.
- It is as thoughtful to acknowledge a good deed as to do one.
- It is difficult to give away kindness. It keeps coming back to you. (Cort Flint)
- It's not a slam at you when people are rude--it's a slam at the people they've met before. (F. Scott Fitzgerald)
- Just because you can't be a star is no reason you have to be a cloud.
- A kind word is never wasted.
- The kindest word in all the world is the unkind word, unsaid.
- Kindness in words creates confidence,
Kindness in thinking creates profoundness,
Kindness in giving creates love. (Lao-Tse)
- Kindness is a language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see. (Mark Twain)
- Kindness is more important than wisdom, and the recognition of this is the beginning of wisdom. (Theodore Isaac Rubin)
- Kindness is more than a thought, it's an action.
- Kindness is tenderness. Kindness is love, but perhaps greater than love. Kindness is good will. Kindness says, "I want you to be happy." (Randolph Ray)
- Life is short and we have never too much time for gladdening the hearts of those who are traveling the dark journey with us. Oh be swift to live, make haste to be kind. (Henri Frederick Amiel)
- Little words of kindness, little acts of love--
bring us just a little bit of heaven from above.
- Live each day in a way that will make you feel good about yourself tomorrow.
- Loneliness shared becomes love; sorrow shared becomes comfort.
- Loved are the ones who are told of their faults in private.
- Never confuse endurance with hospitality.
- Never lose a chance of saying a kind word. (William Makepeace Thackeray)
- No gift is too small to give, nor too simple to receive, if it's chosen with thoughtfulness and given with love. (Franz Kafka)
- No one is more cherished in this world than someone who lightens the burden of another.
- Objects are just objects--people are much more important.
- One must be poor to know the luxury of giving! (George Eliot)
- The only people with whom you should try to get even are those who have helped you. (John E. Southard)
- Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them. (The Dalai Lama)
- Patience is the ability to put up with people you'd like to put down.
- Practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty. (Anne Herbert)
- "Practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty" is great advice but I think what we need right now is for more people to "Practice random acts of intelligence and senseless acts of self-control".
- Real generosity is doing something nice for someone who will never find out.
- Real generosity to the future lies in giving all to the present. (Albert Camus)
- Silent company is often more healing than words of advice.
- The smallest good deed is better than the grandest intention. (Duguet)
- Sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand.
- Strive to be first: first to nod, first to smile, first to compliment and first to forgive.
- Tact is the ability to describe others as they see themselves. (Abraham Lincoln)
- Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution. (Kahlil Gibran)
- That best portion of a good man's life, his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love (William Wordsworth)
- There are two types of people--those who come into a room and say, "Well, here I am!" and those who come in and say, "Ah, there you are." (Frederick L. Collins)
- There are two ways of spreading light...To be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.
- There is no greater loan than a sympathetic ear. (Frank Tyger)
- Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind. (Henry James)
- Time goes by so fast, people go in and out of your life. You must never miss the opportunity to tell these people how much they mean to you.
- To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.
- To keep something, you must care for it--to care for it you must understand what kind of care it requires. (Dorothy Parker)
- To speak of 'mere words' is much like speaking of 'mere dynamite'. (C.J. Ducasse)
- Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around. (Leo Buscaglia)
- Today I bent the truth to be kind, and I have no regret, for I am far surer of what is kind than I am of what is true. (Robert Brault)
- The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good. (Ann Landers)
- The truth has never been of any real value to any human being--it is a symbol for mathematicians and philosophers to pursue. In human relations kindness and lies are worth a thousand truths. (Graham Greene)
- We have no more right to consume happiness without producing it than to consume wealth without producing it. (George Bernard Shaw)
- What a pity human beings can't exchange problems. Everyone knows exactly how to solve the other fellow's. (Olin Miller)
- What counts most in life is what we do for others.
- What matters is not the difference between believing and not believing
but the difference between caring and not caring. (Abbe Pire)
- When you help someone up a hill, you get nearer to the top yourself.
- A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more than an hour of praise after success.
- You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him. (Leo Aikman)
- You cannot always have happiness, but you can always give happiness.
- You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
- You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you. (John Wooden)
(Mary T. Lathrap)
Pray, don't find fault with the man who limps
Or stumbles along the road
Unless you have worn the shoes that hurt
Or struggled beneath his load
There may be tacks in his shoes that hurt,
Though hidden away from view
Or the burden he bears, placed on your back,
Might cause you to stumble, too.
Don't sneer at the man who's down today
Unless you have felt the blow
That caused his fall, or felt the same
That only the fallen know.
You may be strong, but still the blows
That were his, if dealt to you
In the self same way at the self same time,
Might cause you to stagger, too.
Don't be too harsh with the man who sins
Or pelt him with words or stones,
Unless you are sure, yea, doubly sure,
That you have no sins of your own.
For you know perhaps, if the tempters voice
Should whisper as soft to you
As it did to him when he went astray,
'Twould cause you to falter, too.
(This poem, written on a worn piece of paper in very faded ink, was among my grandmothers things when she died. I later learned it was written in 1895. I don't know where my grandmother got the poem but it exemplified the way she lived. Denny)
The Bridge Builder
(Will Allen Dromgoole)
An old man, going down a lone highway,
Came at the evening, cold and gray,
To a chasm, vast and deep and wide,
Through which was flowing a sullen tide.
The old man crossed in the twilight dim--
That sullen stream had no fears for him;
But he turned, when he reached the other side,
And built a bridge to span the tide.
"Old man," said a fellow pilgrim near,
"You are wasting strength in building here.
Your journey will end with the ending day;
You never again must pass this way.
You have crossed the chasm, deep and wide,
Why build you the bridge at the eventide?"
The builder lifted his old gray head.
"Good friend, in the path I have come," he said,
"There followeth after me today
A youth whose feet must pass this way.
This chasm that has been naught to me
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be.
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;
Good friend, I am building the bridge for him. "
Caring People Make a Difference
(good to put in a thank you card)
Thanks so much for your
You inspire us all
and brighten our days!
The Art of Giving
We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the heart:
Love, kindness, joy, understanding,
sympathy, tolerance, forgiveness.
We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the mind:
ideas, dreams, purposes, ideals,
principles, plans, inventions, projects, poetry.
We give of ourselves when
we give gifts of the spirit:
prayer, vision, beauty, aspiration,
We give of ourselves when
we give the gift of words:
encouragement, inspiration, guidance
The Sad Truth
Ella Wheeler Wilcox
There's one sad truth in life I've found
While journeying east and west--
The only folks we really wound
Are those we love the best.
We flatter those we scarcely know,
We please the fleeting guest,
And deal full many a thoughtless blow
To those who love us best.
Unless we can hear
each other singing and crying,
unless we can comfort
each other's failures
and cheer each other's victories,
we are missing out on the best
that life has to offer.
The only real action takes place
on the bridge between people.
(Ella Wheeler Wilcox)
So many gods, so many creeds,
So many paths that wind and wind,
While just the art of being kind
Is all the sad world needs.
Be Special to Others
A group of frogs were traveling through the woods, and two of them fell into a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit.
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When they saw how deep the pit was, they told the two frogs that they were as good as dead. The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump up out of the pit with all of their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they were as good as dead. Finally, one of the frogs took heed to what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He fell down and died.
The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. He jumped even harder and finally made it out.
When he got out, the other frogs said, "Did you not hear us?"
The frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were encouraging him the entire time.
This story teaches two lessons:
1. There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.
2. A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them.
Be careful of what you say. Speak life to those who cross your path.
The Goops they lick their fingers,
And the Goops they lick their knives;
They spill their broth on the table-cloth;
Oh, they live untidy lives.
The Goops they talk while eating,
And loud and fast they chew,
So that is why I am glad that I
Am not a Goop. Are you?
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- The best test of good manners is being able to put up pleasantly with bad ones. (Farmers Almanac)
- A car is useless in New York, essential everywhere else. The same with good manners. (Mignon McLaughlin)
- Children are natural mimics who act like their parents despite every effort to teach them good manners.
- Good manners are made up of petty sacrifices. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
- Good manners can replace morals. It may be years before anyone knows if what you are doing is right. But if what you are doing is nice, it will be immediately evident. (P.J. O'Rourke)
- Hospitality is making your guests feel at home, even if you wish they were.
- I have a respect for manners as such, they are a way of dealing with people you don't agree with or like. (Margaret Mead)
- Life be not so short but that there is always time for courtesy. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
- The manner of giving is worth more than the gift. (Pierre Corneille)
- Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter which fork you use. (Emily Post)
- Manners easily and rapidly mature into morals. (Horace Mann)
- A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person. (Dave Barry)
- Politeness is half good manners and half good lying. (Mary Wilson Little)
- Politeness is the art of choosing among one's real thoughts. (Abel Stevens)
- Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength. (Eric Hoffer)
- Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you--not because they are nice, but because you are.
- Be careful of stones that you throw.
- Do not repeat anything you will not sign your name to.
- Gossip needn't be false to be evil--there's a lot of truth that shouldn't be passed around. (Frank A. Clark)
- If you haven't got anything nice to say about anybody, come sit next to me. (Alice Roosevelt Longworth)
- If you reveal your secrets to the wind, you should not blame the wind for revealing them to the trees. (Kahlil Gibran)
- No one gossips about other people's secret virtues. (Bertrand Russell)
- Nothing travels faster than light, with the possible exception of bad news, which follows its own rules. (Douglas Adams)
- A rumor without a leg to stand on will get around some other way. (John Tudor)
- Show me someone who never gossips, and I'll show you someone who isn't interested in people. (Barbara Walters)
- There are a terrible lot of lies going about the world, and the worst of it is that half of them are true. (Winston Churchill)
- Trying to squash a rumor is like trying to unring a bell. (Shana Alexander)
- What you don't see with your eyes, don't witness with your mouth. (Jewish Proverb)
- When you are in trouble, people who call to sympathize are really looking for the particulars. (Edgar Watson Howe)
- Whoever gossips to you will gossip about you. (Spanish Proverb)
from Be Careful of Stones That You Throw
(Dion and the Belmonts)
A tongue can accuse and carry bad news.
Gossip is cheap and it's low.
So unless you've made no mistakes in your life
Be careful of stones that you throw.
(Edward Wallis Hoch )
There is so much good in the worst of us,
And so much bad in the best of us,
That it hardly becomes any of us
To talk about the rest of us.
Songs about Gossip and Rumors
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- Gossip - Carmen Lundy (2008)
- Gossip and Rumors - Lucky 7 (2004)
- Hometown Gossip - The Whites (1985)
- Idle Gossip - Jackie Paris (2005)
- Lies and Gossip - 3 Cohens (2007)
- Let the Rumors Fly - Gerry Granahan (1959)
- Rumor, The - Dave Kirby (1969)
- Rumor Has it - Clay Walker (1997)
- Rumors - Lindsay Lohan (2004)
- Rumors are Flying - Les Paul (1946)
- Rumors, Gossip, Words Untrue - Swinging Blue Jeans (1966)